“Just fucking deal with it, Andy,” is what I should be telling myself. I haven’t made it this far in life because I was a whiney brat who couldn’t take care of himself, I’m a problem solver, theoretically even a professional problem solver, and I’m going to solve my problems.
What advice would I give somebody in my position? Let’s look at the scenario:
- You are in San Jose, a place where you have both family and friends.
- You have a place to sleep indefinitely and access to a car for most of the day.
- You can access the internet, and with it anything you may need from work, at coffee shops.
- You have a loose estimate of “probably at least 4 months” regarding how long you should be expecting to be in town.
- You have the cash to buy food, gas and internet access.
- You have a few possible housing opportunities, a possible roommate or two and new information every day.
Things that you need to do are:
- Work on the projects that you are committed to.
- Acquire more stable and abundant internet access that can be transferred to whatever location you end up moving to.
- Locate an apartment that will not require you to drive, not require a lease and not cost a huge amount of money.
Yes, you have to change the way you think, you have sleep on a couch, you have to make phone calls, but you can do it. As soon as you stop fighting it you will realize it isn’t some huge sacrifice, it is just a compromise. So what if you are in an uncomfortable situation, you aren’t dying and you aren’t going to die: suck it up and get your work done.
I’ve never wanted to let myself be dependent on others when I didn’t have to, now should be no different. As of this moment, I am no longer going to feel sorry for myself for going through a sudden change and instead am going to make it work. Thanks Dad, for calling my bluff.